Tag: family
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Hard stuff accomplished…
So I just had that hard conversation with my dad. It went so well. He went first and talked about how he didn’t tell me something he wanted to do when we last visited was important to him and how he wanted to get there early. He just said they wanted to go early, which…
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Untitled Drama
That whole thing with my cousin’s wedding got into my mind because of something else going on presently. I am still close with my ex’s family. They are still my family and we have all made an effort to stay in touch and celebrate holidays and big family events. Although I wasn’t sure that even…
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That painful conversation
I’ve been doing a lot of thinking about what I want to talk about with my dad for that relationship class we are doing. I am going with the infantilizing thing, but there’s a lot to it. I want to make sure I get as much as possible in the conversation and I hope he…
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Family, Part III
I have noticed that when I sit down to write, family is on my mind more often than not. I’ve written about what makes a family, dealing with conflict within my family, and many of my struggles with my parents. I like to hear about other people’s families too. As I’ve gone through life, I…
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Generational Trauma
My dad and I are working on this relationship improving course from his church group. It’s been a challenge in a lot of ways and while we have had some improvements in our communication with each other, there are still things he just doesn’t want to hear. Today I brought up some of those things…
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I feel icky
My dad has a podcast. Sometimes we both go on and talk about whatever. Usually it’s current events, or news and views as he calls it. I love football. I have loved football for a long time. I am able to remember so much of it, like players’ names, stats, scores, life stories, whatever. But…
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Dear Brother
Hello. I know we have grown apart so much in our adult lives. We have lived at different corners of the same country. We have both suffered tremendous pain, highs so great that we wanted to scream about our joy from mountaintops, and the end of our military careers. We have had children and lived…
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2 Hours
I just talked to my oldest for two hours. It was awesome. He’s such a good kid. We hadn’t talked in awhile and it’s so interesting to see how much he changes between conversations. He has done so much growing since high school graduation last year. He has walked a hard road. He had gotten…
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Family…or not?
fam-i-ly noun a group of one or more parents and their children living together as a unit. “the family lived in a large house with a lot of land.” all the descendants of a common ancestor. “The house has been owned by the same family for 300 years.” adjective designed to be suitable for children…
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What’s a Family?
One of the greatest discoveries of my lifetime is that family is not just a bunch of people who happen to be genetically related to you, or a group of people you marry into. Family is literally what you want it to be. Your pets are your family. Your friends are your family. Your neighbors…
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