Tag: family
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Household Labor
I started watching this documentary about the division of household labor and how men tend to overestimate their contribution while women underestimate how much they do. It pissed me off for a ton of reasons, but mostly because I’ve seen it exactly as described as a child and as an adult. I’ve lived it from…
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Handling Boy #1
Boy #1 is struggling. He’s with his friend, trying to live on their own in an apartment, getting VA Ch 35 money, going to school full time, and getting jobs. They’ve been on this journey since August. It took us until October to get the VA money flowing. And it’s not the right amount. He’s…
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Out of sync
I’m still recovering from the surgery. The reaction rash is pretty much cleared up and now the areas where my skin turned deep red and slowly fading back to normal color. I finished the steroids on Sunday and ended up in a good bit of pain later that day. It feels like I’ve taken a…
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Family Drama
There’s been a lot going on for awhile with the ex’s parents and their youngest child, who turned 40 this year. This child was content to be kind when she needed her mother to watch her children during the day. This child has always been blunt and rude and sometimes made trouble in public for…
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Odds and Ends
It’s been a nutty couple of weeks but it seems to be settling down now. Boy #3 is done with cross country, Girl is done with soccer and just has lacrosse now, and Boy #2 got his first choice college visit out of the way. Boy #1 seems to be struggling a bit at college,…
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Figuring it all out
My dad. He’s like a crazy puzzle. He is actually pretty crazy himself. I’ve never known anyone else who needs attention as much or is as selfish as my father. Every conversation with him is a one-sided, him blasting you with information, an old story, or some other dull explanation of a basic thing that…
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Once Upon a Time
There were parents who had children just because they thought they were supposed to. These parents thought the best way to raise these children was to direct every part of their lives and force them to be exactly who the parents thought they should be. There was no regard for who these children actually were…
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Enough
A friend of mine posted on social media today that he’s having a hard time with this whole military retirement thing. Like he’s not sure if he’s done good enough as a commander and who is he without the military. This is the way most of us feel when it’s the end of our time…
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Deep thoughts
I’m still thinking about Oppenheimer deep in my brain. It was so intense and there were some parts that I understood so deep in my soul. There were things that scared me and made me feel better and made me wish I was still in the military, even though I was over it by the…
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Another departure
My awesome barber/hair stylist and friend is leaving the area. It wasn’t what I wanted to hear. She recommended another person but…it’s not the same. I feel myself wanting to pull away and just let go completely. I don’t want to say goodbye. I don’t want to learn someone else. It’s hard not to feel…