It’s been a nutty couple of weeks but it seems to be settling down now. Boy #3 is done with cross country, Girl is done with soccer and just has lacrosse now, and Boy #2 got his first choice college visit out of the way. Boy #1 seems to be struggling a bit at college, but he’s trying to get himself together on his own right now.
After things exploding with my father last week, it all was smoothed over this past Monday. It was actually more revealing about who my father is and why he is the way he is. I’ve known for most of my life that he had an abusive upbringing at his father’s hands, but he was overindulged by his mother. He’s learned to reach for something, anything when he thinks he’s in “trouble” and I can relate to that.
The ex’s parents found a house here that they love and their current house went under contract yesterday. We are excited to have them here because they are good, kind people who want to be a part of our lives. They aren’t awkward like my parents, although there are some quirks. It just seems like their quirks are so much manageable than my parents. Of all the grandparents, these are the ones that I am most excited to have close by. Also, the ex will live with them, so I can count on the kids coming back clean, hopefully not full of candy, and not in need of a reprogramming week if it’s a long visit.
School conferences went well for all three of the kids in the past two weeks. They are all doing well, their teachers love them, and Boy #2 is on track to graduate on next May. He’s been working his butt off to overcome some poor choices in early high school, so it’s been great to see him recover his grades and get himself on track for the rest of his schooling.
I have top surgery to look forward at the end of this month. I’ve had a bunch of surgeries, so I’m familiar with the overall experience of surgery and recovery and don’t really feel anxious about any of it. I don’t have any doubts this is what I want going forward. I’ve been waiting for this opportunity since I was a child discovering that puberty was going to destroy what I thought my life would be.
My wife and I saw the Taylor Swift movie this past weekend and it was amazing. I wasn’t a huge TS fan before, although I did love many of her songs. I thought she was ok and pretty much felt neutral about her. But after watching the movie and seeing people cry because they were at her concert, I have so much more respect for her. I’ve never seen anyone cry like that over a female artist and I liked it. I always thought it was a little ridiculous with the Beatles and Elvis, but I guess I understand it better now that I’m older. I have so much respect for her business sense and the way she has fought through a lot of adversity. We’ve watched a couple of documentaries about her and there was so much that I didn’t realize she was battling. But she’s living her best life, doing what she loves, and turning the entertainment industry on its head. She does things her way and that’s great.
So that’s what’s been going on. Probably a few other things too, that I’m just not remembering. Things seem to be settling down and I am definitely happy about that. I can get back to blogging regularly and doing the things I need to get done around the house now. I feel like I haven’t been focused on house stuff since April, which isn’t good at all. I need to get ahead of a bunch of things before surgery in less than two weeks.
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