Category: relationships
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Daily Prompt 12/8/23
I could do less thinking. Not intellectual thinking, but catastrophizing thinking. It’s so easy to get caught up in thinking about the worst thing that could happen and then everything spirals down from there. I try really hard not to get stuck in that worst case scenario game, but sometimes my brain does not care…
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Shaking off Judgment
For once in my life, I am not worried about what others think of me. I have finally reached a place where I no longer rush to judge others. I find that in “real-life” outside of the military culture I existed in for over 20 years, it’s so much easier to not judge others. The…
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Rounding out November in STYLE
It’s been a rough week in our house. Thanksgiving Day was a marvelous feast thanks to my wife’s amazing cooking. We relaxed, watched the parade in the morning, and I was on top of the clean up all afternoon. We were ahead and everything went really well. Then Friday happened…My wife and Girl set out…
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Household Labor
I started watching this documentary about the division of household labor and how men tend to overestimate their contribution while women underestimate how much they do. It pissed me off for a ton of reasons, but mostly because I’ve seen it exactly as described as a child and as an adult. I’ve lived it from…
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Daily Prompt 11/21/23
This is a pretty funny question to me because we have some serious picky eaters here and there’s so much that we all don’t eat. Usually there’s something everyone but one person likes. It’s so aggravating to find meals that everyone will actually eat. But here’s three meals, probably the only three meals, that everyone…
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Handling Boy #1
Boy #1 is struggling. He’s with his friend, trying to live on their own in an apartment, getting VA Ch 35 money, going to school full time, and getting jobs. They’ve been on this journey since August. It took us until October to get the VA money flowing. And it’s not the right amount. He’s…
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Looking down, backwards, and at the mirror
I am still so unbelievably happy with my surgery results. Other than some stubborn swelling, which I understand will go down eventually and is totally normal, everything is going really well with recovery. I am still not to lift anything over 10 lbs and I need to be careful with how much I extend my…
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Feelings
I’ve been thinking a lot about feelings and how I was brought up to not feel anything except angry. When I was sad, hurt, disappointed, too happy, or anything other than angry or numb, it was wrong. Disappointment was particularly unacceptable. I remember an incident where my dad and I were supposed to go to…
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Family Drama
There’s been a lot going on for awhile with the ex’s parents and their youngest child, who turned 40 this year. This child was content to be kind when she needed her mother to watch her children during the day. This child has always been blunt and rude and sometimes made trouble in public for…
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Make it make sense
With my upcoming surgery, I find myself in my head a lot lately when I’m alone. Not my old self-doubt thoughts like “Is this what I really want? Is this really, 100% who I am?” Instead it’s been going like this-“What will it feel like to run without that extra weight I’ve had all this…