Tag: college
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Dueling Journeys
Here’s a timeline of my journey to become Zander: Age 4 – I vividly remember sort of waking up and becoming conscious of myself as a person, a male person. I started choosing my own clothes and toys and I remember loving Spider-Man and other superheroes. Age 8 – My parents bought me a pink…
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Respect
I’ve been thinking a lot about respect lately. Like who deserves respect, who demands respect, what makes people respected or disrespected. Respect is earned. Respecting a position versus respecting a person. The more I’ve thought about respect, the more I realized that respect is something people throw around but never really consider what all they’re…
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Pieces of me
Going to my last ever (as we know it) college reunion this past weekend was one of the most defining moments of my adult life. It felt important to go because I knew so many people that were also going, but I also wanted to take the time to savor the moments I had there.…
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Boy #1
Things are starting to fall into place for him. He found out today that he has been accepted into a pre-mortuary sciences program about three or so hours from where we live. What a huge relief. Not that I didn’t believe in him and not that I didn’t think he could do it. But it…
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The Future
Yesterday I watched a virtual presentation on the University of Minnesota with my wife and Boy #1 (who was watching from Florida.) Initially he going to do a welding program at the local community college. That didn’t pan out, mostly because he just didn’t want to do it. He never even registered for it. He…
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Reframing my life
Since the huge, life changing conversation with my dad I have been looking back at so many things and realizing that my perspective was uninformed. I’m also not sure if I applied a filter after the fact. So far the results have been very interesting and it’s made me realize that it’s very easy to…
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But I’m not gay
One of the hardest parts of all my soul searching that has been hard for me is reconciling sexuality and gender. In college, everyone assumed that I was a lesbian. I felt an aversion to the word lesbian that was inexplicable and made me stay away from any club or organization that had to do…