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Being Present
One of my greatest challenges is staying present in the moment. My mind wanders often to the past, dredging up mistakes I’ve made, stupid comments I’ve said, and times when I was a complete asshole. If I’m not stuck thinking about the past, I’m looking at the future trying to figure out what comes next.…
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We All Have Gifts!
I spent a lot of my life being average. Average height as a little kid. Average weight most years, sometimes really thin. Average grades. Average family. Average athletic ability. Average to maybe below average creativity. I was just solidly average in so many facets of life. At times I was higher than average at school,…
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We’re all beautifully damaged
As I started on my journey after retiring from the military, I spent a lot of time thinking about my VA claim. It’s a ridiculous process where, after 20+ years in the military and going to the doctor just enough to take care of the most painful things, you have to fight for everything that…
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Heart of Steel
I am an empath. I remember the day I started being able to feel other people’s emotions. I was young, watching the first Christopher Reeve “Superman” movie. There’s a part where his dad on earth dies and his mother is heartbroken and he decides it’s time to leave home. I think I was like 7…
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ADHD Emotional Dysregulation
This is my number one problem with ADHD. In the before times, when I wasn’t taking anything for it, I had these huge emotional swings that were epic and daunting for those around me. I could go between deliriously happy and epically angry in about 30 seconds. I thought I had something else going on,…
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The Narrative
As I get older, I am starting to realize that we all have a running narrative in our heads. It tells us who we think we are, what we believe we can do, and how we interact with the world. I don’t think it’s as much a psychological phenomenon as it is a sociological one.…
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Fathers and Sons
As a long time people watcher and student of relationships, I have stumbled across a trend that seems to be more common than I realized. It seems that no matter what the circumstances are, fathers and sons don’t generally have great relationships. My relationship with my father wasn’t great. He grew up with a legacy…