Category: Hot Trigger
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One Trick Pony
I have thought a lot about this blog and what I want to do with it and not do with it. I have read many other blogs and articles about how to write a successful blog. On one hand there seems to be some “conventional” wisdom about blogging and on the other, a “fuck it,…
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I remember
After talking to my wife extensively this week, I have decided that my brain is still turning to certain pathways in my brain that are well worn, but not effective. Life was different when I was just surviving and I had to do what I needed to survive. But I don’t need those coping mechanisms…
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Suicide
(Please be aware that I talk very openly and candidly about my own experiences with suicide. If this is not something easy for you, please don’t continue reading or read with caution. This is not meant to hurt or trigger anyone else.) I understand that suicide is something that is very difficult to talk about…
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Those Hard Things
Thinking about the deep things I avoid is kind of tough for me today. I feel myself wanting to avoid all of those things, even letting them in feels like too much right now. I know that I don’t need to pressure myself to finish that list today, but I want to get it done…
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Student Loan Drama
Today the president finally released his plan for student loan relief. It’s never really been my plan to talk too much about specifics with politics on my blog, but I want to address this topic from a practical standpoint, not really a political one even though I know it’s hot politically. His plan was in…
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You can’t possibly know…
Something that has been grinding my gears for awhile now is this silly transphobic (debunked) theory about Rapid Onset Gender Dysphoria (ROGD). As someone who worked hard to hide from my feelings about my gender, this was interesting and upsetting at the same time. My curiosity got the better of me and I started looking…
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Bodily Autonomy
As a child who was forced to hug relatives I hated, I learned that I didn’t get to make decisions for my own body. As a 16 year old who was sexually assaulted in a relationship, I was blamed for being alone with the person and not listening to my parents. As a 19 year…
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My Very Unhealthy Relationship with Food
Way back, when I was tiny Zander, I wasn’t permitted to snack outside of meals very often. The old school way of parenting was that children should be seen but not heard, and all food consumed was during 3 meals. The Boomers and their parents missed the boat on this. By the time I was…
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Teachers and Veterans
Florida Governor Ron DeSantis has a very interesting theory about how to address the teaching shortage in his state. He waived the degree requirements for teachers in his state and changed the requirements to just 60 college credits with at least a 2.5 GPA. Huh. That’s a solid C average. So basically he is saying…
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In Felix’s Memory
Facebook is a mess over Felix’s death. There are people who Felix was close to who continue to assert that he was male. And then a lot of people who claim that they didn’t know and therefore it can’t be true. A large group of other people are spending a lot of time and energy…