To answer this question I need to start with what I WON’T let go, which is the boundaries and protections I have built for myself. if someone is close to me and violates these protections unknowingly, I will let them know that’s their one time free pass. After that point, if these boundaries are violated, I must assume that it is knowingly a violation and this person is unable to be close to me. And so I will let go of harmony and move on. In the past, I would let anything go for the sake of harmony.
I can let go of someone losing their mind because of pain, trauma, a bad day, and when their fire isn’t directly pointed just at me. Barrage fire at everyone just means they are really in pain. I can let so much go at this point. I have been there and lashed out with no regard for who was in the path of my rage. and I was forgiven by the people who matter to me most.
All I know is that I can’t make general rules about what I can let go for the sake of harmony. It’s just not that simple. As long as someone doesn’t violate my boundaries set up for my protection, I will continue to show up for anyone once they have made it into my inner circle. And that’s the only harmony that matters to me. People on the outer circles of my life don’t concern me. I can step away from them and not worry about what I should be letting go for any reason.
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