Zander's Inside Voice

Today I met the fiance of one of my wife’s coworkers.

I don’t like him. He’s 24 and he takes up space. He’s tall, and he just spreads out everywhere.

But that’s just part of the problem. The main problem is the way he talks to his wife to be and also the way he talks about her.

“She’s a pain in the ass.”

“She’s stubborn. She doesn’t let me have my way.”

“If she says it’s traditional, we do it. If I want it and it’s traditional, she doesn’t care.”

There’s just something about a young guy talking to his fiance like that publicly, with her cowrkers, boss, and boss’s boss that makes me way uncomfortable.

Is he sweet to her in private? Does he say worse to her privately? I feel dread inside, like there’s something about him playing “victim” to her that makes me feel like all is not good in private. Once they live together and those stupid little things that are hard about living with another person will make this worse. He is already putting her down like this without even experiencing those stupid little things.

I don’t know her all that well, but she seems kind and caring and sweet. She’s always eager to help and never wants to offend.

I hope I’m wrong, but for as long as she works with my wife, I’ll be watching this jackass.